Get Toxicity Out of Your Life

Today I want to share with you an insightful blog written by a new friend of mine who also works in the Personal Development / Self Improvement industry.

His name is Iain Forrest and his website is http://redefineeverything.com/

It reads....

We all have toxic people in our lives. 

You know the ones who are always complaining or being negative, abusive or just plain not fun to be around.

One of the key things to learn is that this is a result of their reactions to the experiences in their lives and has nothing to do with you. If you start to feel like you are responsible for why they feel bad then you are taking responsibility away from them. 

The important thing is to not respond with negativity or be drawn into their negativity ways. You need to approach it with a sense of optimism and happiness. Though, this can seem to be harder done than said sometimes. 

I heard a fantastic little parable the other day which is what has led me to write this article. It goes like this.

There was this farmer living out in the middle of the country side. He lived a pretty simple life but enjoyed his day to day tasks and was satisfied with his life. 

One day he went to the well near his house to get up some water to do some cooking. He noticed when the bucket got to the top that the water putrid and obviously toxic. So he knew that he couldn’t drink the water. 

After a little thought he figured that he had 2 choices that he could make.

1. Using a shovel, he could fill the well up with dirt and seal it off. Then go about digging a new well, in a new place, that would have pure water in it. He knew that this would involve a lot of hard work and it seemed like a sacrifice of a previously good well that he had spent a lot of time making in the first place.
2. His other option was to go down to the river every day and bring up a bucket or two of pure water. He could then add this to the well and over time the water in the well would become diluted and be able to be drunk again. Again this would take a lot of hard work and dedication but would mean that he could keep the well that was close to his home.

The one thing he definitely knew was that no matter which option he chose he could NOT drink the water from the well. 

You might have people in your life that are like the toxic water. They bring you down and by drinking from their negativity you start to feel sick and lose sight of your own dreams, ambition and the happiness that is in your life. 

So you have a choice to make. 

You either close of the relationship, which might seem like a really hard thing to do. But if you don’t think that there is any way to rectify the situation and bring the negative relationship back into a positive one, then this is what you must do. 

Or you could bring a little pure water every day. You give a little happiness and positive energy into that person’s life every time that you see them. You always give to them. Then with effort and over time that person’s life will start to brighten and you will find your efforts rewarded with a bright new positive relationship. 

Just remember that whatever you do. 

DO NOT DRINK THE WATER. 

Don’t respond to their anger or negativity; don’t be drawn into their negative world. It will only make you sick and then you’ll both be stuck. 

Have an awesome day INNERPICS followers :)  I value every single one of you :)

Warmest spring regards

Paul :)